Be careful with your self talk today!

Whether we consider ourselves to be fully enlightened or just on the verge of making changes in the way we live, the words we think and speak form our lives. We can’t deny anymore how our thoughts, which transform into our spoken words, are absolutely creating the world we live in. However, when we speak to others, most of the time we try to be conscious of what we are saying to them. We want to be kind, loving, purposeful, and aware of what we want and need to say. We try to be polite to strangers, we smile at co-workers, and we laugh at jokes we don’t get, all the while knowing this isn’t how we treat ourselves. Why do we have ample respect and kind words for others, when we’re silently berating our own wonderful selves? When in our lives did we decide it’s okay to treat ourselves with such disrespect?

What many don’t realize is that our self talk is being heard. It’s being received by our bodies, by our minds, and ultimately will become our reality. Our thoughts become things! What we say, becomes true! When we think something over and over, it will appear in our world, in our lives, whether we want it or not. What do you want?

Begin today to change your life by changing how you speak to yourself. One small loving thought at a time will eventually become the new way you see yourself. Reprogram your old way of thinking about yourself. Stop repeating the same old story. You have a choice to think differently about your glorious self, so think something different. Believe something wonderful! Say something nice about yourself right now!  Sending you blessings for an amazing day!


Why you can never give up on your dreams!

There have been countless times when I’ve wanted to cash in the chips on all my dreams, let them go for a more “realistic” view of my life, stop fooling myself, but each time I heard the voice of reason, something has begged me not to give up. The small, protective voice that I’ve been accustomed to listening to in the past has diminished, and has been slowly, but consistently, replaced with the voice I was born with. The voice of my soul, my loving spirit. This voice, my true voice, which was covered by the beliefs of well meaning adults, has never failed me. It’s been waiting patiently for my awakening, knowing one day I would return to the love I was born with. It’s been holding onto my purpose until the day I realized why I am here. 

Although I know now what my purpose in life is, it took years of perceived struggle and dashed dreams to get to this point. Some days I may forget for awhile, however it now takes very little for my memory to return, and remember why I’m here in this particular lifetime. The loving, patient voice that guides me today has known my dreams when I was too sad, or too lost, or too angry to feel them or believe in them. Somewhere along the way, I began to listen to that voice again. I was tired of living in a fog. When you get to the point in your life when the fear has become exhausting, something shifts. The small voice becomes smaller as your authentic voice gets clearer, eventually dissipating as a memory. I hear it now. It never gave up on me. It helped me to rediscover my dreams. It waited for me to be ready. 

Be patient. Don’t give up on your dreams just yet. They’re waiting in a spot for you to be ready. Spend some time rediscovering who you were meant to be. Stop listening to everyone around you when they say you’re too old, or too young, or not smart enough. Just stop living your life listening to the opinions of others. Get back to the time when you knew who you were. It’s time to remember, to listen to your spirit. It’s time to believe in your dreams! 

You must feel rich to become rich!

Rarely do I engage in money conversations with others who are convinced they are broke. In fact, broke is a word everyone should remove from their vocabulary if they wish to create more wealth. The broke mindset is detrimental and contradictory to what most people say they want. What you think, you become. What you speak, you live. It’s that simple. The more you reinforce your lack of money with your worry thoughts about it, the stronger you make your reality of lack. When I’m in a conversation with someone who wants to complain about money, I automatically go into protection mode. As quickly as possible, I silently bless that person with prosperity, and then change the subject. If it’s a group pity party, I often remove myself from the conversation, either physically or mentally. When you engage in lack discussions, you are allowing those beliefs to permeate your subconscious. When the vibe of poverty is reinforced by others around you, it’s so important to remove yourself immediately. The energy is draining. Don’t join the party! 

I’ve developed a few strategies to make yourself immune to the effects of a poverty mindset when it tries to enter your thoughts:

1. Build a strong foundation of an abundant mindset. Focus on all you have and show appreciation for it everyday. Gratitude for what you do have creates room for much more. Realize that abundance and prosperity is more than the money you have in your bank account. Fill your mind with rich thoughts. Feel as though you have enough. If you can’t feel it, you will never achieve it.

2. When you become involved in a conversation about lack of money, remove yourself physically if possible. Walk away from the discussion, and regroup with thoughts of abundance. Feel gratitude for all your blessings, including money. Then, imagine a new conversation with the same individual or individuals about how much you have, how abundant your lives are, and how blessed you truly are. This new energy will be one of prosperity.

3. If you can’t physically leave the conversation, you must protect yourself from the negative energy by looking at the discussion differently. You may not be able to change the minds of the people you are talking to, but you will be able to change the energy of the words. Listen with love. Send them thoughts of prosperity as you are listening. See them happy. Visualize everyone involved living their best lives. When you look at a situation differently, the situation changes. When you silently bless those you are speaking with, the conversation takes a turn to a more positive light. It works every time!

Happy abundant Saturday everyone! May you all be blessed with prosperity and wealth! I see it for you!

Change your default response!

It’s time to change your default response to fearful situations by looking at them differently. Most of the time when faced with something that frightens or worries us, we automatically respond fearfully, which is our default mechanism. But when we practice seeing everything that comes into our lives in a loving, appreciative way, our default response changes to one of acceptance. The more we choose loving acceptance as a response to fear, the stronger we become in our ability to handle any challenge without falling to pieces. Instead of blurting out words that we might regret, we’re able to view a situation or person in a more loving light which then allows a calm response. How many times have you wished that you could take back something you’ve said in the heat of the moment? Before you’ve even had a chance to process what another has said or done, the attack words come spewing out, and instant regret floods your mind. When your default response is fear based, you’re relying on your own strength and will power to hopefully say the right thing in the right moment. That will power sometimes fails. But, when you practice responding lovingly in all situations, eventually you will be rid of attack thoughts. There will be times when you may fall back into old habits, and harsh words or thoughts will sneak out before you realize, however the foundation for a new way will have been formed, and the way back to a kinder response will be easy and natural. All it takes is a gentle perspective, a loving view, a desire for peace. Blessings to you!

Comparison is a dream killer!

Is it possible to completely get rid of doubt? You know that annoying little twinge you feel when you see someone else living their dream life? You wonder why you haven’t yet reached your potential, all the while feeling envious of those that seemingly have. But, how can you compare your journey to another’s? You can’t! It’s not possible. No two journeys are alike, just as no two people are alike. Comparison will only cause unwanted distress, and make you doubt your ability to fulfill your dream. Instead of worrying about how you measure up, honour your gifts, celebrate your differences, and realize it’s your uniqueness that will make you stand out. When you have faith in who you are, it’s easy to celebrate another’s success without comparisons. Lifting others up allows you to rise to unimaginable heights in your own journey. This is how to get rid of that twinge. So stop doubting and allow your greatness to shine through. May all your dreams come true! Blessings!

Does your belief system match your desires?

A good way to tell if your desires are a vibrational match to your beliefs, is by your emotions. When you think about your dreams in life do you feel excited and happy? Or do you feel anxious about the possibility they may never come true? If the thought of having everything you want brings up feelings of unworthiness and doubt, then you’re keeping your desires at bay. The only way to begin making your dreams come true, is to align your thoughts of whatever it is you desire with the vibration of positive, happy feelings. You need to get in the space of joy whenever your dreams come to mind. Believe with all your positive emotions that you are now in the process of receiving everything you want! Align your beliefs to your desires by lifting your emotions to a higher level and be prepared for miracles! Blessings to you for manifested dreams!

Forgive your younger self.

As I get older I become less and less critical of the stupid things I did when I was young. I no longer shame myself over my past mistakes, because I realize all those mistakes had to happen in order to help me grow. I understand why I had to go through certain experiences and heartaches. I’m grateful for those experiences, for my stupidity, and for everything I did wrong. I forgive myself for all of it. I love myself for all of it. Every little bit of it. The appreciation I hold for my journey grows each day, and will continue to grow through all the future blunders I will make, that I’m now excited to make. And isn’t that what this incredible, crazy journey is all about? Embracing all the parts of us, past, present, and future? So, instead of condemning your stupid, younger self, accept her. Love her. Forgive her. Then get ready for the rest of your amazing journey!

Three ways to add more bling to your work week using the necessary accessories!

If you’re dreading your work week ahead, here are some helpful ways to listen to your spirit and guide you through each day.

1. Begin your week in gratitude for it all. Go into gratitude overload the moment you wake up. Expressing gratitude is the quickest way to fast forward you into a good mood. I’ve written a lot on the topic of being appreciative about what you already have in your life, but it cannot be overstated. Many times we will begin a routine to think more positively by adding gratitude, and before the end of the day we’re complaining about something that didn’t go as we had planned. When you feel yourself turning into the complaint police, switch the gratitude light on immediately. The negative feelings will dissipate as quickly as they appeared.

2. There is absolutely no better way to raise your self-confidence than loving yourself as you are right now. In fact, it’s necessary in order to advance along your journey. When we are in the mode of nonacceptance, criticizing every move we make, degrading our appearance at every mirror we pass, we are disrespecting our spirit. Our souls came here to learn lessons of love, which include loving ourselves deeply. Learning to love yourself again allows you to love others more as well. Letting go of the conditions you set upon yourself will open up your heart, and free you to do what you are meant to do in this life. After all, love for yourself is what you were born with and will take with you when you leave.

3. One of the reasons we experience anxiety is because we are not living in the present moment. We are always worrying about the future or regretting the past, which makes it difficult to enjoy right now. The days of sitting on the front porch enjoying the sunshine and a glass of lemonade have been replaced with a fear filled society that places value on the newest gadgets which only make our relationships more and more impersonal. We work harder and longer than we ever have, only to acquire things to make our lives more enjoyable in the future, but we’re forgetting that the only time we have is now. Slow down. Breathe in the moment. Appreciate what’s in front of you right now. This is the way to make your soul smile.

My meditation journey from chaos to serenity!

Meditating did not come easy to me, to say the least. When I decided to begin meditation some 25 years ago, I was so sure that I was going to achieve a zen like state in a few days. I mean, how hard could it be? I knew how to sleep very well, meditation couldn’t be much different than closing your eyes and relaxing. In fact, sleeping was what I was doing on a pretty regular basis back then. I was asleep even when I was awake! I didn’t realize how much of my life I had been missing out on by being in an unconscious state for most of my young life. But, I was determined to change from a zombie into a new age thinker by going deep into my subconscious through this miraculous thing called meditation. I had no idea it was going to take me so long to finally understand what meditation was all about, or that I wasn’t doing it wrong!

I discovered meditation in my early 20’s, however I quickly dismissed it time and again for fear I wasn’t doing it right. It didn’t seem to be working as well as I had read it should, so I put it on the back shelf each time I believed I failed at it. But, what I didn’t know was, it didn’t matter if it was perfect, or that I only achieved a minute or two of silence. It only mattered that I had quieted my mind enough to allow my inner voice to speak to me. The only important part of my perceived failure, was that I was unknowingly practicing to be in the space where magic happens. Back then, my self criticism was out of control, and anytime I tried something new, I would immediately dismiss any progress I made as not good enough. “One or two minutes will never propel me into enlightenment,” the critical voice would chant. If only I had known that enlightenment was already within!

So, I persisted with the practice of meditation, read a million books and articles on the elusive trance-like state I was trying so desperately to achieve, and continued to berate my method. And then, one day after several years of fumbling around and worrying about the effectiveness of my practice, I heard a voice as clear as if it was coming from a loud speaker in my ceiling. It scared me a little! I had been practicing listening to my inner voice for quite some time, and when I heard it shout at me, I was confused. I always thought that your inner voice was soft, and comforting, like a hug from your mom. Not this time! And, although the voice was loud, the message was soft and kind. The words were loving. I felt as though I had opened up a secret door in my subconscious, and all the trapped, loving, supportive words were spewing forth after years of being hidden by all the self-loathing talk I had forced on myself. This was a major breakthrough for me. I suddenly thought that maybe I was meditating the right way all along and I just needed to relax, let go of the results, and allow the process to unfold in the right time. I realized that all the years I had been working on lightening up and letting go, was leading me to this wonderful moment. My meditation practice was perfect for me!

From that moment on, I decided to continue meditating anyway I wanted. I change it up all the time now. There really is no “right” way to meditate for everyone. It’s all perception. It took me several years to understand that meditation can take many forms. When you find the right way for you, it changes your life. I now meditate several times a day, sometimes it may be for only a minute. When I have more time in my day, I might meditate for twenty minutes or longer. Sometimes I fall asleep when I’m in a deep trance, but instead of condemning myself for not staying awake, I am grateful to be calm enough to rest because I must have needed it. Finding your “right” way may take time, or you may discover it quickly, but however and whenever meditation graces your life, bask in it. Accept whatever practice you are currently working on without criticizing your method. It’s all leading you to serenity. Blessings to you and happy meditating!