Daily Inspiration: It’s ok to say no!

It’s taken me many years to be able to say no without explanation. It’s ok to take care of yourself first, and if saying yes to someone or something you know will deplete your energy or resources, then it’s not only ok to say no, it’s absolutely necessary. Once you’ve established boundaries that will protect your well-being, others will respect those boundaries. They will eventually get the message that you’re just not available! It’s not selfish to take care of you first!

Daily inspiration: Minding my own business

Today I’m beginning a new segment where I share a daily inspiration with you. I can’t promise it will always be life changing, but maybe there will be something you can take away that will make you think just a little differently. Today the subject is minding your own business!

Lately, I’ve been going against a lot my own new beliefs, and doing and saying things that are none of my business. I sometimes get caught up in the drama of conversations where I have absolutely no business being involved in. Believe me, this new way of thinking and being in the world takes practice and commitment, and every so often I find myself reverting back to my old way of thinking, although it’s rare these days. Listening to my inner being keeps me on the right path, but sometimes my old voice shouts so loud that the calm voice is drowned out. These are the moments when I have to remember who I am! I need to go within and listen with love, and mind my own business!

Minding your own business is not easy. It takes courage. It takes love. It takes everything you have within you to stop talking when you want so bad to give advice. But the moment you realize that it’s really none of your business, the urge goes away. You no longer feel your advice is superior, or in anyway will change the other person’s mind. And you don’t care! Minding your own business is the only way to accept everyone and their own choices. The arrogance of budding in goes away too. Acceptance takes its place. Freedom takes its place. Tune in, listen to your inner being, and in time, minding your own business will not be an effort. It will be natural. It will be your new way of being in this world! Blessings!

It just doesn’t matter!

I feel reassured knowing that nothing in my past matters today. I can start fresh in this moment to create a new today. I don’t have to worry about what I did or didn’t do yesterday, because I can choose now to make my life exactly what I want it to be. I’m not going to regret anything. I’m not going to dwell on my mistakes. I’m going to focus on this moment only, because it’s the only moment that matters. I’m ready to tell a new story! A story where I’m worthy of all of it! A story where I’m happy and content with my life as it is, but so ready for more! The past doesn’t own me anymore. My today is where magic happens. I can begin again, fresh, new, ready! Tell your story as you want it to be! And it can be whatever you desire!

3 gentle suggestions to make your child’s school day experience easier!

I’m usually an inspirational, “change your thoughts, change your life” kind of gal, but I’m also a teacher, and sometimes I just have to share what I believe are important things for parents to remember. Let’s face it, we’re all trying to do the best that we can, but life inevitably gets crazy at some point, especially when our children are school age.

Being a kindergarten teacher, I often see children ill prepared for the day they are about to embark on. For a wee little body and mind, they depend on us to equip them with tools to allow a happy, successful day. I want to share my thoughts about how a busy, overwhelmed parent can make their day and their child’s day go a little smoother!

1. Sleep! Make sure your child gets a good sleep. This is an obvious one, and sometimes one that’s not so easy to accomplish, but it absolutely is the most important thing on this list. Starting with a consistent bedtime routine, preparing your child for sleep should be a calm, loving experience for both of you. Consistency is the key! Too often, we give up when we just want peace more than anything, but persistence will eventually give you the results you want. Children crave routine. Your bedtime experience will be less chaotic if you create a routine that your child looks forward to. I also believe that it’s never too early to start meditating. Whatever your routine looks like, make sure it’s one that both of you enjoy. Make sure it’s relaxing rather than frantic, and it’s most likely going to look different for everyone. Design it tailor made for you and your child.

2. Wake up time! Please don’t go screaming into your child’s room yelling at them to get up because you’ve slept in and now will be late for work and school. Having a morning wake up routine is just as important as a bedtime routine. If you wake up late, grumpy, and dreading the day, so will your child. Make sure you have enough time to make the morning a happy experience. A happy parent equals a happy child! The drive or walk to school should be light and fun too. Sing songs, tell stories, or try my favourite, visualize your day. Have your child explain their perfect day to you. Then reinforce to them that it’s possible for their day to turn out exactly as they want it to. Don’t forget to tell them how much you love and believe in them before you say goodbye. This positive interaction will stay with them all day.

3. Healthy food! I really should have put this one in capital letters and underlined it. All too often (usually because we’ve done what I said not to do at the beginning of #2) we send our children to school without a proper, nutritious meal to start their day. And then we send them with a lunch that we’ve thrown together from a convenience store! Don’t take offence to this, we all are allowed to have a day or even several days where we just don’t have our lives together, (and Tim Hortons or 7-11 is on the way to school. Been there, done that) but if we want to give our children successful, happy days at school, we have to get it together more often than not. Preparing meals the night before can be be a huge time, and life saver. Remember that little minds work better when they are nourished properly.

Ok, so those are my top 3 gentle suggestions for a successful, happy day at school. These apply to young and old alike, however if we begin as early as possible in our child’s life with a routine, keep it fun and light, and consistent, the school day will be a breeze! Of course there will always be those days when you want to run away and hide in the mountains because you JUST CAN’T DO IT ANYMORE! That’s ok! I won’t tell anyone where you are!

Stop doing these things immediately!

1. Stop putting unrealistic expectations on others! It’s not their job to live up to standards that you’ve set for them. Set yourself free by letting them off the hook. Focus on your own life instead.

2. Stop believing that others are going to have the same values as you! They don’t! And when you expect them to, it causes you to judge them for something you can’t control. How insane is that? That brings me to the third thing you must stop doing.

3. Stop judging! This is a big one, and we’re all guilty of doing it, but if you want any chance for happiness, you must STOP judging! That includes yourself. When you judge others, you’re in essence judging yourself. It all comes back to you. Judging puts you in a place of self righteousness, which will eventually make you feel less than because it puts you in a place of comparison.

4. Stop comparing yourself to others! You are one of a kind! A star! No one else will ever be you. And that fact alone should be celebrated each and everyday!

5. Stop complaining! Please! No one likes a complainer, and it’s not bringing anything good into your life. If you only knew that complaining was bringing you more of what you’re complaining about, you would stop immediately. Start talking about what’s good in your life instead! Start appreciating the amazing life you have and watch it become even better.

6. Stop worrying! Like complaining, it only creates more things to worry about. Worry is such a useless, draining emotion, and serves no purpose! When you catch yourself worrying, change your thought to something that makes you happy. In time you will become good at changing your thoughts to happy ones. Happy thoughts equals happy life.

7. Last one! Stop being so hard on yourself! You are an incredible human doing the best you can. Praise yourself daily, hourly if possible. Become so in love with you, that you will always put yourself first. It’s not selfish, it’s necessary!

Are you living by default?

You have one life! One life to love and laugh. To feel joy. Are you making it the best life? Most go through life on automatic pilot, not knowing how to live any other way. Listening to others to make important decisions. Regarding other opinions more valuable than their own. Life is sometimes set up for you without your approval, and then you fall into a trap by living a life you had no say in. You forget that you have a say, a voice that you've forgotten to listen to. Your inner being is patiently waiting for you to listen. It's time to take back your life! It's time to make choices that resonate within you. Deep inside there is a fire that has gone out. Your inner being knows it's there. It's time to recapture what you are here for. Begin to live with joy in your heart, regardless of what your responsibilities are, (and let's face it, we can't just drop everything and run off to an exotic locale to sell baskets on the beach). Living joyfully, with purpose, will allow the ordinary to become extraordinary! But, there's a catch. You have to make a conscious effort each day to live in joy. You need to wake up and affirm that this day will be wonderful, that you will be happy. You can't wait for your day to unfold and then decide if it was a happy day or not. YOU have to make the choice before you get out of that bed, to live this day in joy. It doesn't just happen. Choose to appreciate everything, and you will awaken the joy, the fire within, and you will begin to live on purpose. You will no longer live by default. I'm a believer in how we live is what we live. If you live joyfully, you'll automatically be given more things and circumstances to enjoy. Stop waiting for outside things to make you happy. Be happy and joyful first, and watch how your life changes!

Let go of all toxicity in your life. 

Everyone has some kind of toxic element in their lives. People, diet, job, or a combination of all three and more can contribute to the feeling of unwell and despair within. We carry around resentment, anger, sadness, but we don’t know why these afflictions are with us day after day. The possibility that there may be another way of living never enters our minds when we’re deep in the negativity that we believe is bestowed upon us. Or if we do know a better way, we continue to live with toxins because we’re too afraid to change. But, we don’t have to let it consume us. We don’t have to allow it to cover our light. We have a choice to rid our lives of the toxic elements that bring us down. There is always a choice, although it often seems difficult to make the decision to get rid of the elements that are causing the distress. Choosing to let go of people, jobs, habits, whatever the cause may be, will lift the toxins out of your soul. Remember the necessity for your health and well being as you let go. It will become easier. It will feel good. You will feel lighter. As the toxins leave your body, your life, and your spirit, you will wonder why you didn’t rid yourself of them sooner. Remember that you are in charge of your joy, and when toxic situations invade your life, it’s your right to let them go immediately.  Life is meant to be lived in joy! Blessings for a peaceful, non-toxic day!

Don’t let the opinions of others become the reason you give in or give up. 

There will be times when others will have an opinion about how you live your life, how you do your job, or how you raise your kids. You need to have the courage to look past those opinions and do what’s best for you. Just remember those opinions are a reflection of their beliefs, not yours. Stay in your own light and listen to your voice. It’s the only one that matters.

Three ways to change your mindset to increase your prosperity!

Do you have a mindset that attracts money easily or one that repels it? Are you sabotaging your wealth because of your money beliefs? If you are constantly struggling, living pay check to pay check, it’s likely you are not fully aware of how your belief system is contributing to your lack of wealth. Everyone inherits their beliefs about money from generations that came before, but most don’t realize it’s something they have full control over to change. Instead of creating their own belief system around money, they use the same one their parents and grandparents used. Of course it’s not on purpose, it’s the only way they know.

When I was growing up, I heard things like, “money doesn’t grow on trees!” That’s a classic. My grandfather was a big believer that money was the root of all evil. To this day, my dad continues to use that phrase as often as he can whenever a discussion of money or wealth comes up. But he learned it from his dad, and his dad learned it from previous generations, so it’s no big surprise that I adopted his lack belief system.

For many years I worried about my finances because I believed I was destined to follow in my family’s footsteps. I heard phrases like, “rich marry rich,” “family wealth is inherited,” and “you need money to make money.” Well no wonder I was poor! Where the hell was I going to get money to make money, especially since my bank account was constantly in the overdraft. My credit cards were maxed because I was using them for cash advances (no one told me that was a no no!), bill collectors were calling me almost everyday (not answering the phone was not making the problem disappear), and I could not see a way out of my financial dilemma except for a huge lottery win. But even if I had won the lottery at that time of my life, I probably would not have been able to manage it properly because I had not healed my lack mindset. Changing the way I thought about money was my only solution. It wasn’t the quick fix I was looking for, but I persevered and it changed my life dramatically!

The following 3 steps are suggestions to get you out of your lack mentality and into a prosperity mindset:

  1. Stop telling the story of how broke you are!

Most financially challenged people constantly talk about how broke they are, but if you are going to fix your money problems, you have to change the way you speak and think about your money. Stop getting into conversations about how little money you have. No one cares! And you are perpetuating your lack. It may be difficult at first to tell a new story about your wealth, it may even feel like you are fooling yourself and others, but the saying “fake it till you make it” applies here. It gets easier. Make it a habit to talk positively about your money and wealth. Stop saying you can’t afford something. Stop asking people how much they paid for something. And if you can’t bring yourself to tell the new story out loud, just stop talking about it completely to others and keep the story to yourself. But make a conscious effort to change your self-talk. Your inner dialogue becomes your belief system, so if you can find a way to talk positively about your money situation, eventually it becomes a habit. My new mantra became, “I am wealthy, I have plenty of money for all my wants and needs, money flows easily to me from all avenues.” And be patient with yourself. Find an affirmation that works for you. Just make sure it’s positive and uplifting. If you go back to worrying about money, try to correct that self talk as soon as you can. I promise, the more you practice this way of talking and thinking about your money and wealth, the easier it becomes. I didn’t change my thinking overnight. It took years, but it was so worth it.

2. Practice gratitude everyday, it opens up your world!

I began years ago to get on the gratitude train. I kept hearing this new buzz word from every self-help guru out there, and I thought I may as well give it a try. What have I got to lose? I started writing down 5 things everyday that I was grateful for. Simple things like, my son, my job, my MONEY! I started noticing, that as I became grateful for things already in my life, my life began to change. In small ways at first, and then gradually over time as I continued practicing gratitude, my life took on a whole new direction. Money actually started to “flow” into my life. My credit cards had a zero balance (a far cry from maxed out a few years earlier). I had money in a savings account! What???? I could afford brand name things (that was a big one for me). The more I practiced gratitude, the more grateful I became, and my financial picture changed dramatically. But it wasn’t only my money that increased. I became healthier and happier. I began loving my job that I had wanted previously to quit. My relationships improved. My entire life became joyful. Gratitude had literally transformed my life into one that I had wanted for years! The life I had wished for many years earlier, had become the life I was now living. Gratitude did that! Sounds too simple? That’s because it is!

3. Fall in love with money

When I began changing my mindset around money and wealth, I decided that I was going to begin to look at money completely differently. I didn’t want to fear it anymore, which I was essentially doing because of the family belief system handed down to me by my well meaning parents and grandparents. I put small amounts of money in each of my purses, started a savings account in two different banks (although the amount that went into these accounts started out small, it was still something I could see growing), and I became more generous with my money. When I changed purses for different occasions, it was such a nice surprise to see I had extra money in each one. Most people don’t use cash anymore, however keeping actual dollar bills in each of my purses helped me with the tangible part of money. I like having the cash to remind me what money is. It helps me remember that money is nothing to fear, and that if it leaves my purse or bank account, more will flow back to me. My monthly bills that used to make me cringe when they came in the mail no longer evoked a fearful response. I was thankful for the services those companies provided me. When you realize that money is just energy, and to keep the flow of that energy moving you must give it away, your opinion of paying bills becomes different. Accept and release, allow and let go. Don’t be angry or fearful around the concept of money. That attitude will surely keep it from flowing freely into your life. Love your money and you will change how money comes into your life. If someone had said those words to me when I was going through my darkest, poorest time of my life, I probably would have had a few choice words for them. I get it. Money is a subject that evokes a lot of different emotions in people. For those that don’t have a lot of money, fear and worry take over. But when you start looking at money differently than you’ve been led to, or taught to, your financial situation will change.

When I look back at how afraid I was, how I saw money as something that would never be abundant in my life, that I would be broke forever and never get ahead, I’m so grateful I decided to take the first step in changing my mindset. That’s all it takes. One small change, consistently practiced, will increase your prosperity. I always feel abundant now, in all areas of my life. My self-talk has become more consistent with how I want to feel. That is key! In order to live the way you wish to live, to have prosperity, more money, better health, whatever it is that you are desiring, you must change the way you think and speak in order to change your circumstances. Stop telling the broke story! No one wants to hear it! Start telling your new, prosperous, abundant, wealthy story! Prosperity blessings to you!