Have you ever noticed that when you are in a low vibration, feeling grumpy or sad, that you find others to join you in your pity party? You take your low feeling with you throughout the day, and every encounter matches how you’re feeling. The grocery clerk is rude, your children are whiny, your boss is grumpy, and you just keep running into people that piss you off! That’s no coincidence. Those encounters are only like attracting like. You are a magnet that attracts whatever you’re putting out there. Put out low energy and you receive low energy interactions. Luckily, this is pretty simple to change!
Changing your mood, your energy, your vibration takes very little effort. It all begins by reaching for the next best feeling. Don’t try to become the ray of sunshine all at once, because it won’t work. Likewise, if you belittle yourself for being in a bad mood, you’ll stay stuck in that low energy without knowing what went wrong, or you’ll end up blaming everything and everyone around you for your bad mood. The secret is to start small and keep going up! Begin feeling a little better by thinking about anything that makes you smile. Take a timeout if possible, and quiet your mind for a few minutes. Think about something to appreciate. When you’re in a mode of appreciation, it’s difficult to feel low. Appreciation always leads to a higher feeling. Eventually, you won’t find yourself in those lower vibration situations, and if you occasionally do, you will automatically go into appreciation mode to turn it around.
Reaching for the next best feeling is a simple way to ease yourself into a higher vibration. Then, when you feel a little better, go up some more. Keep going up and you’ll see how fast you attract people and situations to match your mood. The grocery clerk will suddenly be friendly, your kids will be happier, and your boss will be a joy to work with! Rise and others will too! Blessings to you!
I’m guilty of getting trapped in the complaining mode every once in awhile, however for the majority of any given day, I try to focus on the positive. Everyone has someone in their life who thrives on complaining, and when you are having a conversation with that person, it’s truly difficult to stay focused on the positive. It’s much easier to join them in their misery. But there’s a way that works for me 99% of the time. Hey, I’m still human! That 1% is usually when I’ve decided that it’s much easier to join in the pity party.
If you can recognize the moment you’ve been bamboozled into a complaining session, that’s the point of your power. Once you’ve joined in for at least one complaint, you’re toast! Your energy is zapped, your strength is gone, and your vibration has been lowered, possibly to the point of no return. At least until you part ways with this downer. But, if you can catch the conversation before you indulge, then it’s up to you to turn this complaint fest into an appreciation fest. Stop yourself before you utter one word! Instead, find something kind to say immediately. Change the subject. Stop the conversation. Walk away if possible. Don’t give the negativity anymore momentum. Begin to talk about something you appreciate in your life. Tell the person how beautiful they look, or how wonderful they are. Anything positive will do! This is a sure fire way to halt the negative words that are about to be spewed.
We all get caught up in negative conversations, but if we have the awareness to catch ourselves before it gets too far, we control the outcome. Just remember that the highest vibration determines the interaction. Stay high, when they go low. Blessings!
Whenever you find yourself in the middle of a conflict, your only choice is to respond with love. It becomes impossible for conflict to continue if one person remains sane. The one with the highest vibration will always determine how the situation unfolds, and when the vibe is full of love, the end result will be positive. Sometimes it’s difficult when you’re in the middle of crazy, but if you remain calm and loving, you will diffuse the crazy.
All negative emotion is fear. You may think the other person is angry with you, but the reality is that they are terrified. Sadness is fear. Confusion is fear. Frustration is fear. Instead of responding with a negative emotion when confronted by someone exhibiting one of these emotions, try responding with love, with compassion, and see how quickly the situation changes. They’re hurting. They’re frightened. They’re most likely confused by their behaviour too. When your response is loving and kind, they will feel understood. Keep your vibe high and others will rise to meet you.
It’s taken me many years to be able to say no without explanation. It’s ok to take care of yourself first, and if saying yes to someone or something you know will deplete your energy or resources, then it’s not only ok to say no, it’s absolutely necessary. Once you’ve established boundaries that will protect your well-being, others will respect those boundaries. They will eventually get the message that you’re just not available! It’s not selfish to take care of you first!
Laugh today! Find something that makes you smile. Think a thought that feels good. Listen to someone that makes you laugh. It’s so good for your soul!
Today I’m beginning a new segment where I share a daily inspiration with you. I can’t promise it will always be life changing, but maybe there will be something you can take away that will make you think just a little differently. Today the subject is minding your own business!
Lately, I’ve been going against a lot my own new beliefs, and doing and saying things that are none of my business. I sometimes get caught up in the drama of conversations where I have absolutely no business being involved in. Believe me, this new way of thinking and being in the world takes practice and commitment, and every so often I find myself reverting back to my old way of thinking, although it’s rare these days. Listening to my inner being keeps me on the right path, but sometimes my old voice shouts so loud that the calm voice is drowned out. These are the moments when I have to remember who I am! I need to go within and listen with love, and mind my own business!
Minding your own business is not easy. It takes courage. It takes love. It takes everything you have within you to stop talking when you want so bad to give advice. But the moment you realize that it’s really none of your business, the urge goes away. You no longer feel your advice is superior, or in anyway will change the other person’s mind. And you don’t care! Minding your own business is the only way to accept everyone and their own choices. The arrogance of budding in goes away too. Acceptance takes its place. Freedom takes its place. Tune in, listen to your inner being, and in time, minding your own business will not be an effort. It will be natural. It will be your new way of being in this world! Blessings!
I feel reassured knowing that nothing in my past matters today. I can start fresh in this moment to create a new today. I don’t have to worry about what I did or didn’t do yesterday, because I can choose now to make my life exactly what I want it to be. I’m not going to regret anything. I’m not going to dwell on my mistakes. I’m going to focus on this moment only, because it’s the only moment that matters. I’m ready to tell a new story! A story where I’m worthy of all of it! A story where I’m happy and content with my life as it is, but so ready for more! The past doesn’t own me anymore. My today is where magic happens. I can begin again, fresh, new, ready! Tell your story as you want it to be! And it can be whatever you desire!