Daily Inspiration: keep going!

I know we could all use a bit of daily inspiration these days, so I thought about what might spark some good feelings and I came up with this. Keep going! Sounds somewhat simplistic, and maybe not what some of you want to hear right now because you just can’t possibly think one more thought, or feel anything other than sadness and hopelessness during the times we are in. But, I fully believe that when we are in a negative space, the only answer is to keep going. One step at a time, one moment of moving towards a better feeling thought, one action that propels you higher, is all it takes.

There have been so many times that I was down so far, I thought I’d never see or feel the kind of joy I am experiencing in my life now, regardless of what is happening around me. But, I kept going. I refused to accept the sadness. I wanted to be unconditionally joyful, but I had no idea if that day would ever come, or how to get to that point. But, I eventually started feeling better, not because my situation changed, or because I suddenly had everything I wanted. My joy was an inside job. I couldn’t wait for my life to change for joy to be present, I had to make joy present first, then my life changed.

The only thing absolutely necessary for anyone to have the life they dream of, is to never give up. You were not meant to settle for a life you don’t want. We are all meant to be joyful, it’s our natural state. I’m not saying my entire life is perfect, but most of it is! I don’t feel happiness all day everyday, but it’s close. The difference now is, I know that any unhappiness, anger, or negative emotion I feel at anytime is temporary and can be changed if I choose. It took years of ups and downs emotionally before I understood that I was in charge of how I felt. If I woke up in a bad mood, I had the power to change that mood into a great one. It was my choice to continue my day as a grump, which might have been the easier route, or decide to be happy, which was the better route. I also used to let rude comments offend me all the time.  With lots of practice and perseverance, I learned how to not take anything personally, and not let the bad mood of another affect me. I had the choice to be joyful regardless of what anyone said or did to me. I was so exhausted by letting situations or people influence my mood. I was done with it. When I finally made the decision to learn another way, it was not an overnight accomplishment, to say the least. Even now, I occasionally fall back into old habits and allow something outside of me to put me in a bad mood. But now it doesn’t last more than a couple of minutes, because I know I have the choice to remain stuck, or turn it around. It takes practice to not let outside circumstances dictate how you are feeling, but it’s so worth it. 

I’d like to share with you my recipe to live a more intended joyful life. It has worked for me very well over many years, and because I kept moving forward, little by little, moment by moment, it became easier. Remember, when you are learning anything new, it takes practice to become proficient at it. The important thing is that you keep going, and don’t give up if you fall back into your old way of thinking and being. One small, positive thought of appreciation will bring you back up. That’s all it takes!

The following list is what I like to remember everyday:

  1. Remember that each day is a reset. It does not matter what happened yesterday, or the day before, or the year before. Start with a fresh outlook everyday!
  2. Before you get out of bed, go on a rampage of gratitude or appreciation for your life, your body, or anything you want. Just go crazy with gratitude overload! If you start the moment you wake up, you will set the tone for the day. Your good mood may only last a couple of minutes, but that’s okay. It’s better than getting out of bed cursing how much you have to do today. You may very well have the day from hell ahead of you, but it’s much easier to get through if your mindset is positive and loving. When you choose to appreciate the good things in your life, you create a space for more good things to come.
  3. If you find your mind reverting back to complaining, or being sad, or anything negative, just stop if you can, take a breath, and focus on something that makes you smile. This is the time where I begin another rampage of appreciation. Some days you may find yourself absolutely unable to stop and change your thoughts, and that’s okay too. Tomorrow is a reset! Keep going!
  4. Before you sleep, do not rehash the negative parts of your day, but instead think of five things that went well. If you can’t think of five things, pick one and focus on that. When you fall asleep with only positive, loving thoughts, the chances are pretty good you will wake up happy. But, if you don’t, see #1. And remember to keep going! You’re doing great!

How do you feel?

It’s been a long time since I’ve written anything at all! I’m not sure what has kept me from putting my thoughts down, but I felt the need to begin again. During this time, we could all use a little uplifting! I have always used writing as a way to, not only get my feelings and beliefs out, but to maybe impart some hope to all who read my posts. I’m hoping these words will lift us all up!

I know the answer to the above question is going to be different for everyone. Some of you are probably feeling hopeful, some are feeling sad, maybe some are extremely anxious or scared of what is to come in this time of uncertainty, but no matter how you are feeling right now, remember it’s a choice. You have the choice in any given moment to change the way you feel. If your swearing at me right now, I get it. I am not trying to dismiss the fear some of you are feeling, but I am going to tell you that your emotions are under your control. Your feelings may be absolutely justified, however, allowing your emotions to control you instead of the other way around, is what’s creating the unnecessary fear in your world. Your emotions are your guidance system, and you are in complete control of how you see the world around you.

What do you see right now? Most will say the world they see is scary, uncertain, mean. But it’s because you are looking at the world through a fear based lens, and allowing your reaction to be guided by outside circumstances. But there is another way to look at the same situation. We all have choices. The choice to see fear and chaos, or to see love and calmness. The choice to be bitter and hateful, or to be happy and kind. Our freewill comes from within, and we have the choice to see things differently, but most of the time the momentum of gloom and doom has taken off in a direction that’s difficult to stop. When this happens, we get stuck in a default program that is not serving our highest good. We are meant to be in joy! When we constantly look at what’s in front of us, we miss the beauty of the world, the love that’s available to all of us at any time we wish to access it. Some just don’t know it’s always there!

So, when you are feeling anything less than joyful, listen to that voice within that is your guidance system. It will never lead you down a gloomy path. If you feel sad or angry, or just frustrated at the world situation, remember you have a choice to feel better. Your emotions are not controlled by outside circumstances. You are in control of your emotions and the way you choose to feel! Love to all!

 

New Year resolution?

I absolutely do not believe in New Year resolutions. I understand the need to make changes in your life that will lead to a better you, however using the new year as an excuse to create a new life just doesn’t work. Most people inevitably go back to their old way of living, and usually that way is living by default. We have ingrained beliefs and habits that unless we choose to live a different way each and every day consistently and consciously, we eventually go back to those beliefs and habits. Wanting to change some aspect is usually the first step, and that’s what begins the resolution. Then, when the resolution fails and we go back to our old habits, we berate ourselves and sometimes each other, for not having enough will power or strength to follow through with the thing we thought would make our lives better.

But what if instead of trying to change something that we believe or a bad habit that’s been a curse in our life, we decide to accept ourselves completely? What would happen if we embraced all our idiosyncrasies and faults, and looked at them differently? What if we only focused on loving ourselves unconditionally? Could our lives change if we stopped focusing on the so called bad parts of our lives and consistently focus on our good? What we focus on expands, that’s just a basic law of the universe, so if we are focusing on the parts we want to change, by using will power or belittling our faults and habits, we are only creating more of that which we don’t want! The answer to getting rid of what we don’t want, is to only focus on what we do want. Stop looking at the parts of your life that aren’t working, and consciously and lovingly look at the parts that are working. Those areas will expand and the other unwanted parts will naturally fall away.

But, if you are still adamant about having a resolution for the new year, make loving yourself the only one. Loving yourself no matter how much you weigh. Loving yourself no matter how broke you are. Focus only on the love you have for yourself and your life will change in ways you can’t imagine. Stop complaining about your life and how others may be living. Put all your energy into love! Watch how your life changes once you make the only resolution that will work. That’s my resolution for the rest of my life!

Listen to you

There will be times when others may influence your thoughts or decisions. They may convince you that you are wrong, that your ideas are not valid, or that you are not good enough. They may push their own ideas on you. Believe me when I say that bullies come in all shapes and sizes, all ages, all forms. But those people cannot influence you if you choose to only listen to you! We all have an inner voice that is all knowing, and when we choose to honour that part of us and listen, we always have power. Listening to only our voice takes away the power of the outside world and anyone who tries to devalue you.

I occasionally forget that I have this power and revert back to letting others make me feel small, but it happens less these days since I’ve discovered this amazing power. The opinions of others don’t matter to me as much, even though I’m still learning to make all opinions but mine irrelevant. It only matters what I think about my life and myself. It isn’t anyone’s business how I spend my time, or how I live my life. When someone tries to make you feel less, it’s more about them anyway, than you. It’s their own insecurities and feelings of lack in their own life that are coming through their disapproval of you. Stop allowing it! We all have a choice to listen to our own wise voice. That voice is always approving, always loving, and will never make you feel less than the glorious being that you are! Listen to you!

There’s no other time!

What are you waiting for? Stop putting your life on hold until you get what you think you need to make you happy. There is no other time but now! Be happy now. Look around at all you have now and appreciate it all. Be grateful for your life now. It’s happening in this moment. Not when you get the perfect job, or when you find the perfect mate. It’s right now. Stop wasting your time worrying about the future. That will take care of itself if you just lighten up a little. Being satisfied with where you are will determine what comes next. So let go. There’s no other time but now!

Daily Inspiration: You are prosperous!

Do you believe that you’re prosperous? Many people will say no because their definition of prosperity is limited. If you expand your definition, and examine your life as it is right now, I guarantee you will feel prosperous.

Prosperity to most people means having lots of money, valuable assets, luxurious vehicles, and the list goes on. But I want to open you up to a whole new realm of prosperity that will allow you to feel prosperous right now. When you look at your life as it is in this moment, what do you see? Bills? Then you’re prosperous! When you have bills, you have services that many others in the world do not have. It means that you have luxuries such as electricity and running water. Do you have a place to live that shelters you from the weather? Then you’re prosperous! You may have a mortgage, which means you are on your way to owning your own home! That’s prosperity! Do you have healthy children? Are you healthy? Prosperous! Do you have a job you love? Do you have a job you hate? That’s prosperity! At least you have a job that pays those amazing bills! Do you have a family that loves you? Maybe you have a family that drives you crazy! It’s all prosperity.

Begin today to look at your life as prosperous! The reason many of us don’t see our lives as prosperous, is because we’re too busy looking at what’s wrong instead of how very blessed we are. It doesn’t matter what word we use either. Prosperous, abundant, lucky, blessed, they’re all the same. The word isn’t important. The feeling is. When you begin to put the feeling behind everything, then your life changes. When you feel prosperous, you are prosperous! When you feel abundant, you are abundant. Begin today and feel different about your life, and in no time at all you will have a completely different life! Wishing you all prosperity!

Daily Inspiration: Rise and others will too!

Have you ever noticed that when you are in a low vibration, feeling grumpy or sad, that you find others to join you in your pity party? You take your low feeling with you throughout the day, and every encounter matches how you’re feeling. The grocery clerk is rude, your children are whiny, your boss is grumpy, and you just keep running into people that piss you off! That’s no coincidence. Those encounters are only like attracting like. You are a magnet that attracts whatever you’re putting out there. Put out low energy and you receive low energy interactions. Luckily, this is pretty simple to change!

Changing your mood, your energy, your vibration takes very little effort. It all begins by reaching for the next best feeling. Don’t try to become the ray of sunshine all at once, because it won’t work. Likewise, if you belittle yourself for being in a bad mood, you’ll stay stuck in that low energy without knowing what went wrong, or you’ll end up blaming everything and everyone around you for your bad mood. The secret is to start small and keep going up! Begin feeling a little better by thinking about anything that makes you smile. Take a timeout if possible, and quiet your mind for a few minutes. Think about something to appreciate. When you’re in a mode of appreciation, it’s difficult to feel low. Appreciation always leads to a higher feeling. Eventually, you won’t find yourself in those lower vibration situations, and if you occasionally do, you will automatically go into appreciation mode to turn it around.

Reaching for the next best feeling is a simple way to ease yourself into a higher vibration. Then, when you feel a little better, go up some more. Keep going up and you’ll see how fast you attract people and situations to match your mood. The grocery clerk will suddenly be friendly, your kids will be happier, and your boss will be a joy to work with! Rise and others will too! Blessings to you!

Daily Inspiration: It’s time to appreciate!

I’m guilty of getting trapped in the complaining mode every once in awhile, however for the majority of any given day, I try to focus on the positive. Everyone has someone in their life who thrives on complaining, and when you are having a conversation with that person, it’s truly difficult to stay focused on the positive. It’s much easier to join them in their misery. But there’s a way that works for me 99% of the time. Hey, I’m still human! That 1% is usually when I’ve decided that it’s much easier to join in the pity party.

If you can recognize the moment you’ve been bamboozled into a complaining session, that’s the point of your power. Once you’ve joined in for at least one complaint, you’re toast! Your energy is zapped, your strength is gone, and your vibration has been lowered, possibly to the point of no return. At least until you part ways with this downer. But, if you can catch the conversation before you indulge, then it’s up to you to turn this complaint fest into an appreciation fest. Stop yourself before you utter one word! Instead, find something kind to say immediately. Change the subject. Stop the conversation. Walk away if possible. Don’t give the negativity anymore momentum. Begin to talk about something you appreciate in your life. Tell the person how beautiful they look, or how wonderful they are. Anything positive will do! This is a sure fire way to halt the negative words that are about to be spewed.

We all get caught up in negative conversations, but if we have the awareness to catch ourselves before it gets too far, we control the outcome. Just remember that the highest vibration determines the interaction. Stay high, when they go low. Blessings!

Daily Inspiration: Always respond with love!

Whenever you find yourself in the middle of a conflict, your only choice is to respond with love. It becomes impossible for conflict to continue if one person remains sane. The one with the highest vibration will always determine how the situation unfolds, and when the vibe is full of love, the end result will be positive. Sometimes it’s difficult when you’re in the middle of crazy, but if you remain calm and loving, you will diffuse the crazy.

All negative emotion is fear. You may think the other person is angry with you, but the reality is that they are terrified. Sadness is fear. Confusion is fear. Frustration is fear. Instead of responding with a negative emotion when confronted by someone exhibiting one of these emotions, try responding with love, with compassion, and see how quickly the situation changes. They’re hurting. They’re frightened. They’re most likely confused by their behaviour too. When your response is loving and kind, they will feel understood. Keep your vibe high and others will rise to meet you.